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Dr. Jeremy Schiller’s story

The COVID-19 pandemic was heavy enough.

As a practicing physician and the Chair of the Salem Board of Health, Dr. Jeremy Schiller was doing his utmost to protect community members from a virus scientists were racing to understand and navigate in real time.

“I had a good relationship with [then Mayor of Salem] Kim Driscoll, and we promoted COVID mitigation strategies that were rooted in science and were progressive and dynamic,” Dr. Schiller says. “Despite overwhelming support from the community, we received a lot of the typical negative responses — and I was ok with that. Science is hard and is always evolving and that is not easy for some to digest and understand.”

However, those responses became personal in December 2021. The Omicron variant was sweeping through Massachusetts and hospitals were dangerously nearing full capacity. The Salem Board of Health, at the urgence of local hospital leaders, instituted a vaccine mandate for local restaurants to help keep area hospitals from a possible catastrophic crisis.

“At that point, there was a real increase in number of those comparing what we were doing to the Holocaust,” Dr. Schiller remembers. “Multiple emails on a daily basis from various people in the community.” Dr. Schiller went out of his way to respond thoughtfully to the emails and educate community members on the actions the Board was taking. However, the correspondences were becoming increasingly antisemitic in nature. Salem’s Health Agent, whose surname sounds Jewish, shared that both he and Dr. Schiller had been the subject of voicemails citing them as “Jews controlling public health.” He also forwarded Dr. Schiller postcards the Board of Health had received that were addressed to “Un ‘Doctor’ Schiller” with a Star of David drawn on it and statements like “FREI” (German for “free”), “GENOCIDE,” and “Justice will come for you” scrawled across them. The Health Department even received a yellow Star of David — badges Jews were forced to wear in Nazi-occupied Europe.

Around this time, a rally was held outside Dr. Schiller’s house (he wasn’t there), organized by Diana Ploss, an independent gubernatorial candidate who, later that week, livestreamed a simulcast of the Board of Health meeting, with hateful comments like, “Look at this Jew, always after money” and “Look at the smug Jew talking” posted on her website. Dr. Schiller, who volunteers in his position as Board Chair, was aghast and disgusted that his efforts to help guide the community safely through the pandemic evolved into an opportunity for antisemites to viciously attack him for the simple fact that he is Jewish.

“It was scary,” Dr. Schiller says. “I contacted Mayor Driscoll and there was no political calculus whatsoever on her part. She immediately released a letter along with the ADL condemning what was going on.” Dr. Schiller also applauds the swift response of Chief Lucas Miller of Salem Police Department in coming to his defense, as well as the President and Chief Executive Officer of Beth Israel Lahey Health, Dr. Kevin Tabb, for reaching out and supporting him.

“To me, there’s a role for condemnation and outrage, but it can’t end there. Education and understanding are critical components to combating antisemitism and hate,” Dr. Schiller says. “That’s why the idea of allyship is so important to me. We can only imagine how many other groups of people feel marginalized. I have a very close family and amazing friends. I can’t imagine how deeply undercutting and painful this would be to someone who doesn’t have that kind of support — because even with that support I can still feel the pain of it today.”

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Rabbi Shlomo Noginski’s story

On July 1, 2021, while standing near the entrance to Shaloh House Jewish Day School in Brighton, Rabbi Shlomo Noginski was approached by a man with a gun who demanded that he give him the keys to his vehicle and then instructed him to get inside the car. Rabbi Noginski, fearing for the lives of the school-aged children attending summer camp within the building, ran from the assailant and, in the ensuing struggle that followed on Brighton Commons, was stabbed a total of eight times in broad daylight.

But for every stab wound, for every ache, pain, and hardship that followed in his slow recovery, Rabbi Noginski is only keeping a tally of all the miracles, including — defying comprehension — being in the right place at the right time.

“I have seen G-d’s hand throughout my life,” Rabbi Noginski says.

Growing up in the Soviet Union, Rabbi Noginski’s family was targeted for being Jewish. His mother, a celebrated composer and pianist who had won a national competition and performed in the Kremlin, attracted the attention of antisemites disgusted that a Jew — and a woman — received the award.

The family received multiple death threats and Rabbi Noginski was often physically and verbally attacked. They made aliyah (immigration to Israel) to escape antisemitism in the early 90s and Rabbi Noginski’s mother encouraged him to take up martial arts to defend himself.

Rabbi Noginski believes his black belt in judo played a small role in defending himself from the dozens of relentless stabbing attempts made by his attacker over the course of their struggle that lasted more than 10 minutes. However, he is quick to point to a series of divine interventions for his ability to stave off more serious or even fatal injuries, rather than his “physical prowess.”

“It is G-d’s protection that is the real assistance,” he says. “But the real miracle is that I was outside of the school accidentally. If I came out earlier or later, this young man would have had unhindered access to the school and the camp, and it could’ve been much worse.”

Rabbi Noginski sustained six stab wounds to his left arm and hand and two to his abdomen. The attacker, who was discovered to have a history of using antisemitic slurs, was charged with hate crimes, as well as assault with intent to murder and attempted armed robbery, and the investigation is ongoing.

“In the short term, I simply could not perform any manual physical labor with my left hand or bear any weight, and one of the deeper wounds in my left shoulder affects my ability to do heavy lifting with my left arm,” Rabbi Noginski says. “In terms of emotional rehabilitation, that’s another story.”

Rabbi Noginski sees this attack as “a second birthday,” a blessing, and proof of G-d’s presence in his life. He’s using this incident to infuse the community with “more light and positivity” and has already opened a new Rabbinic Studies program at the school.

“Going forward, I feel I’ve been charged with a mission of doing more than I was before,” he says. “Anything that happens is directed by G-d, and this only strengthens my Jewish pride and identity.”

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Chanie Krinsky’s story

On a May evening four years ago, Chanie Krinsky had just put her three youngest children to bed when she heard rustling outside of her home, the Chabad Jewish Center in Needham.

Thinking it was an expected visitor, she asked her son to greet them at the door, but he reported seeing no one there. Right afterward, her husband, Rabbi Mendy Krinsky, returned home with groceries and Chanie smelled smoke.

“I’m very sensitive to it because I had been in a serious house fire when I was younger,” Chanie explains. Mendy searched inside for the source of the smell and couldn’t find anything when Chanie remembered that the Chabad Center for Jewish Life of Arlington-Belmont, the home of Rabbi Avi Bukiet and his wife, Luna, had been set on fire just days earlier. She urged Mendy to look outside.

When Mendy opened the door, their son peeked his head out and immediately noticed small flames licking at the side of the house, near the entrance to the synagogue. Because of the rain, because of their access to a fire extinguisher, or, as Mendy and Chanie believe, because of divine intervention, they were able to contain the damage to the exterior and put out the fire before the fire department arrived on the scene.

“As soon as I heard that there was a fire, I woke up the kids who were already in bed, carrying them, half-awake, out of the house and into the car,” Chanie says. From there, Chanie sent out a message to other Chabad residents in their network, explaining what had happened. “I said, we’re safe, be careful out there, you know, in case this person was going around doing this to other places,” she recalls.

Through her chat group, she learned that the Bukiets, once again, had their Chabad set on fire that very evening, just 40 minutes earlier.

“It was hard for us to sleep that night, knowing this person was still out there, knowing that someone was trying to burn our house down,” Chanie says.

The next day — Shabbat — brought hope.

“The number of flowers and gifts and messages of support that we received from the community was so touching,” Chanie says. “Two women from the community suggested holding the Havdalah ceremony outside our house after the sabbath ended, and they told the local temples and churches. We came out of the house on Saturday night and there were more than 400 people there — the police blocked the street. We prayed, we sang songs, it was so moving.”

At the time, people were saying, “Maybe take down the menorah in front of your house, maybe you should hide it, or remove your address online,” Chanie says. “We said, ‘Absolutely not. We’re not going to hide.’ On the contrary, we believe this event and similar ones should be an impetus for growth. The best way to combat antisemitism is to be stronger and prouder Jews.”

“Until the indictment, there was no way to know for sure that it was antisemitism, but we knew even then,” Chanie says. “We’ll never know why he chose ours and the Bukiet’s — but they were both the homes of the Chabad rabbis and their families.”

The man accused of the Chabad arson died before justice could be served, but the mark from the fire remains on the house and, since then, one of her sons was targeted for being Jewish and physically assaulted in Manhattan.

“Sometimes the world can feel scary, but you need to move on, you can’t live with that heaviness,” Chanie says. “We have to be aware, but we trust in G-d and move on. We can’t let this stop us.”

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Sam’s* story

Imagine you’re a sophomore in high school, living in a small, picturesque New England town. You come home from school one day before break, ready to relax, and open your Snapchat to see what your friends are up to. And just like that, you’re confronted with a picture of a swastika made of pennies taken in one of the classrooms of your high school. Sam* doesn’t have to imagine. She and her friend lived it.

Back when Sam and her friend experienced this incident in high school, they had already endured years of cutting comments about their Jewish heritage from their classmates and friends, saying things like “Do you live in little Israel?“ or “I didn’t know Jews were allowed to go trick or treating.” And they shrugged them off because they didn’t want to make waves with people who clearly didn’t understand how offensive they were being.

But when that swastika was posted, it was a step too far to ignore anymore. Enough was enough. “This was posted on social media, so a broad amount of people were seeing it compared to when someone just says a comment to you. You don’t have proof per se, but this was posted, and however many friends he had on Snapchat were however many people were seeing the post,” Sam says.

Sam and her friend decided it was time to make a change. At first, they kept it a secret because they didn’t know if people would understand. When their friends approached them, Sam said, “I’m a minority here. None of you are Jewish and I didn’t know how you were going to react because I was doing something against one of our friends.” They needed help. After talking with their parents, they boldly reached out to the Anti-Defamation League (ADL).

The ADL answered the girls’ call and introduced them to a program called A World of Difference Institute that educates and trains faculty and students on how to deal with issues of discrimination of all types. But there was a slight problem. They needed funding to get the program off the ground in their school. To their relief and delight, the community stepped up. Parents, local businesses, and their high school PCO worked together to raise over $7,000 in just a few short weeks.

To this day, Sam and her friend’s courage to ask for help continues to better their hometown. “My youngest brother who’s seven years younger than me is at my high school now, and he’s being taught these things [by A World of Difference Institute] […] It’s really important to me to know that they are still doing it and they are still educating the teachers and the kids.”

Sam knows that the work isn’t done. “It’s so weird to me because I just graduated college and I feel like I’m still actively doing things for this, and I was 16 years old when I first started. I did not think that six or seven years later this would be staying with me.” Even though antisemitic incidents are up all over America and “it’s a really scary time to be a Jewish woman,” Sam keeps moving forward. “I like to help out as much as I can. People still reach out to me asking if I can help and I try and do that in the best way possible.”

By sharing her and her friend’s story again, Sam has given hope to the next generation one more time.

* Name changed upon request due to safety concerns. 

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Andie’s story

It all started with a “harmless” joke.

Andie, just beginning their conversion to Judaism, was simply trying to connect with their family at the movies. On any given day, Andie is generally guarded around their family, and with good cause. “A lot of members of my family of origin are pretty homophobic and say a lot of really insensitive or offensive things — before and after I came out.” Ready to endure and respond to this kind of behavior, they set off to hopefully make the best of an evening together.

But their cousin had other ideas. Andie was extremely close with this cousin and his sister, “they were basically two extra members of my family.” But “as we grew up, he really started saying and doing things that were not ok — being really sexist, being really homophobic.” And Andie tried to avoid him and stay in a space that made them feel safe, but he caught them off guard.

While waiting in line for popcorn, their cousin decided now was his moment. He said, “Why are the rabbis running down the street? They were chasing a penny.” Andie was stunned. They were ready to hear offensive comments, but not about their newly found religion. Andie’s safe space was torn apart.

No one thought there was anything wrong with Andie’s cousin’s casual antisemitism, not even their mother, who as a devout Christian that believes Christians are persecuted in American society, might be the one person to truly get it. But she simply dismissed Andie’s concern with, “Don’t pay attention to it.”

Andie’s family has a history of not understanding where they’re coming from. “I’m neurodivergent, I do and say weird things and I have a very funky sense of humor, and I kind of feel like that puts a target on me a little bit with my family.” And on top of that, they grew up in a far-right-leaning, religious household where they were told their whole lives that being gay was bad — “It’s sinful.”

They were taught that religion was not a welcoming place for all, until they discovered there was more out there than what their family believed. “When I explored more about other religions I was like, ‘Oh, so it’s not all bad, it can even be a really positive thing in somebody’s life.’”

They’ve since become more devoutly Jewish and find it healing, Shabbat in particular. “It’s an anticapitalistic practice that’s very important to me in my life, and also, as somebody with a lot of chronic illnesses, I need time where I am basically just doing nothing to heal my body and rest my neshama (soul) after a long week of working.”

Still, when they go to visit their family, they aren’t being respected or accepted, so they try and find ways to work around their family’s expectations, like dressing in ways that will be approved of — shorts and a t-shirt instead of long sleeves and a long skirt — or trying to keep kosher in their own quiet way even though their grandmother insists on offering them shrimp in a manner that feels to Andie like it’s a “power play.”

Fortunately, Andie has found their chosen family — people who make them feel seen — throughout their conversion to Judaism while at college and beyond into their new life. “I live 3,000 miles away now and I’ve cultivated a really good group of people who understand my quirks, and I feel very loved.”

And so, it didn’t all start with a joke, but maybe that’s where it all ends.

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Addie’s story

“Don’t mind him, he’s just being cheap like a Jew.”

When Addie, working as a cashier in Foxborough in 2021, heard those words from a customer watching her companion fumble through his wallet, she felt an immediate physical reaction.

But this wasn’t Addie’s first time experiencing antisemitism.

Growing up in a small town southwest of Boston, Addie remembers being one of a handful of Jewish kids in her graduating class of 360 students. From the cliques that formed around church groups to being singled out during her history class unit on Judaism, pervasive feelings and messages of otherness were omnipresent throughout her formative years.

During a lecture on dictators in her freshman year, a classmate turned to her and said, “Addie, you need to go hide because the Nazis are going to come for you.”

“I didn’t think too much of it when it happened,” Addie recalls. “I was a shy kid. I went through the day, didn’t say anything to my teachers, didn’t say anything to anyone else, but I came home and was telling my mom about school, and I said, ‘Oh, this kid said this to me,’ and she sort of just stopped in her tracks and was like, ‘What? Can you repeat that?’ She said, ‘You know that’s not ok, right?’ I told her that I knew it was wrong, but I didn’t know what to do.”

Her father called the school, and Addie remembers feeling embarrassed, fearing reprisal and not wanting to draw additional attention to herself. After she met with the principal and told him what happened, the boy was moved across the room away from her, but he never apologized. “I think I kind of knew that nothing was going to be done,” Addie says.

Her mom and dad, however, insisted that calling it out was necessary. “Even if I didn’t realize it at the time, I’m glad they did it, it was a learning and growing moment for me to realize that things like this happen and they happen often.”

During her senior year, a teacher told Addie that her congestion from a cold made her sound like “an old Jewish woman from New York.”

“I had to hold myself back — she was an adult and an authority figure,” Addie says. “Now, looking back, I know I should’ve done or said something. That was another moment.”

Addie believes that these “moments” helped shape her into the person she is today and gave her the courage and confidence to speak up that day in Foxborough.  

Noticing that the man was looking at her and toward Addie with embarrassment, the woman continued, “Oh don’t worry, she’s not Jewish.”

Heart racing, Addie says that she “put the customer service part of [herself] aside” and said, “Actually, yes I am, and you shouldn’t say things like that.” She says that the woman seemed ashamed of what she said but didn’t offer an apology, and Addie’s manager gave her the time to step away and calm down after she explained what occurred.

While she knows antisemitism is never going to completely go away, Addie isn’t hiding, and these experiences have only strengthened her Jewish identity. “I hate that it happened, but I’m proud of myself for getting through it,” Addie says, noting that she shares these incidents as often as she can to encourage others to fight back. “I define it as a source of pride. It’s a badge of honor.”

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“Walking on Eggshells”: The Experience of Being Jewish in the Workplace Post-10/7 

By Kate Whitney

Forty Jewish federation leaders from across the country came to Capitol Hill in September to urge Congress to take action on growing levels of antisemitism in the medical and health field. (Photo: JFNA)

Since Oct. 7, 2023, antisemitic incidents — already at historic highs in the U.S. even before the terror attacks by Hamas — have surged. And while much of the focus has been on colleges and universities, more and more adults are finding themselves demonized and discriminated against in the workplace for identifying as Jewish.  

One of the most surprising areas for this increase in intolerance has been in the health care field where “first, do no harm” is the foundational ethics precept taught to all medical students. 

Dr. Caroline Kaufman is an assistant psychologist in the Spirituality and Mental Health Program at McLean Hospital and an instructor in psychology in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Last month, with help from CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism in mobilizing a local contingent of representatives, Kaufman traveled to Washington, D.C., with Jewish Federations of North America (JFNA), along with 40 other Jewish leaders, to urge Congress to take action against the rise in antisemitism in the medical and health fields.

The stories she brought with her were disturbing: virulently antisemitic rhetoric on academic listservs. The distribution of antisemitic cartoons and imagery. An intern and granddaughter of a Holocaust survivor crying about the guilt they felt because they were scared to reveal their Jewish identity. A list of supposedly “Zionist therapists” (some not even Jewish but with “Jewish-sounding” last names) added to a blacklist in the Chicago area. 

“Prior to Oct. 7, I took for granted that my colleagues were broadly supportive of my identity and how I live my life as a Jew,” Kaufman says. “It was only after that I realized how precarious that support is and that there’s a litmus test for Jews in professional spaces. Are you a Jew who passes the test with your views on Israel and other political issues, making you a good and acceptable Jew, or the opposite? It became apparent that it is more acceptable to express views that previously, in my experience, were not tolerated. The impact of that has led me to have a more defensive stance in professional spaces. It’s been very stressful.”  

Supporting Jewish employees in the workplace 

Many workplaces have diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives designed to foster a diverse workforce, ensure equal opportunities, and create an inclusive culture, but individuals who identify as Jewish are increasingly finding themselves perceived as an unprotected class, having to answer for the Israeli government (regardless of their feelings on the matter), and facing sweeping allegations of racism and supporting genocide. Jewish employee resource groups (ERGs) are on the rise, providing a safe space to support community, culture, career, and care for Jewish and Jewish-identifying employees. 

As part of CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism’s (CCA) work to support Jewish ERGs — a key component of CCA’s effort to address antisemitism in the workplace — CCA helped support Mass General Brigham’s (MGB’s) new Jewish ERG, along with ADL New England, Jewish Community Relations Council of Greater Boston, and the Foundation to Combat Antisemitism. As the largest employer in Massachusetts, MGB’s ERG provides significant momentum and inspiration to other Jewish ERG members who are already connected to CCA.   

Dr. Jacki Hart, director of the Heal Ukraine Group, is an advisor to MGB’s Jewish ERG and was part of the JFNA fly-in to Capitol Hill last month after Melissa Garlick, associate vice president of CJP’s CCA, told her about the opportunity. 

Hart too had heard heartbreaking stories from Boston-based colleagues and patients to bring to D.C.: clients being treated differently by their practitioners because of their Zionist leanings, and patients afraid to disclose their Jewish ancestry to a health care provider wearing a “Free Palestine” T-shirt or watermelon earrings. 

Hart says that employers in Greater Boston and elsewhere, including in health care, are beginning to appreciate the need for antisemitism training. However, she says, there is often a confounding of the issues with a desire to merge teaching about anti-Jewish bias in the context of all forms of hate. “You feel, sometimes, like you’re walking on eggshells; no one wants to take the first step,” she explains. “Conflating the issues and offering a resolution so milquetoast and middle of the road that it becomes essentially the equivalent of ‘All Lives Matter.’”  

Meanwhile, a mixed-method, evidence-based survey conducted in late fall 2023 and six months later by MGB’s Jewish ERG co-chairs and Harvard Medical School professors Elyse Park, Ph.D., MPH, and Mark Poznansky, M.D., Ph.D., showed concerningly consistent levels of feelings of unsafety in the workplace. Almost all feelings of unsafety were related to interactions with staff and co-workers. These findings reflected the anecdotal reports Park and Poznansky had heard from colleagues, and no organization-wide training to educate employees on antisemitism has yet been offered — although there are plans to complete this. 

“The point is to protect our two most vulnerable groups: patients and trainees,” says Poznansky. “And what we’re seeking is education about antisemitism, efforts to call out hate in health care, and a clear reporting and disciplinary process for hate speech — including posting on social media. We’ve been very clear about this since the beginning.” 

“We just want neutrality in health care delivery,” Park adds. “That includes rules and regulations around clothing and accessories that are political in nature.” 

“They may seem benign, but these things cause tremendous angst and hesitancy that affects patient care,” Hart says. “On top of which, people then deny our experience. If another marginalized group said they felt prejudiced against, you would believe them, right? It’s so hurtful to even have to say that out loud.” 

Bringing attention to the issue 

The September fly-in to Washington, D.C., was meant to shed light on what Jewish employees are facing in health care spaces, with the aim of getting Congress to establish an oversight committee or hold hearings, akin to those that brought attention to antisemitism on campus.  

“It was truly remarkable,” Hart says. “This was put together fairly quickly, and we did have some Zoom training on how to talk to policymakers, but here you had 40 clinicians who dropped everything, paid for themselves, and flew in voluntarily to raise awareness about this issue.” 

Altogether, the Jewish leaders stated their case to 25 lawmakers and policymakers from Texas, Arizona, Pennsylvania, Alabama, Virginia, North Carolina, Connecticut, Illinois, California, Nebraska, New Jersey, and New York. 

“This was an amazing experience for me and my colleagues,” Kaufman says. “Many of us spoke about challenges and harassment, and limitations in career aspirations due to identity. I provided statistics and background about what I see happening. Depending on the representative’s office, we were sometimes approached with surprise; some had no idea it was happening. But what I got from all of them was a willingness to listen and a desire to change, even if there was some lack of certainty on how to make that change.” 

“I think JFNA is really motivated to make something happen,” Hart says. “It felt like this is just the beginning. I didn’t know any of the folks prior to the trip, and now I feel like I could call up any one of them to connect and discuss this issue. It was profound and empowering. It didn’t take away the pain, but it felt like, despite people trying to tamp us down and quiet us, we can work together and make a difference. It helped me know that we’re not alone in this.” 

Get help, get involved 
  • Call your congressperson and call for hearings and investigations to shed light on antisemitism in the workplace 

And, finally, some professional advice on how to take care of yourself if you’ve experienced discrimination in the workplace: 

The first thing you need to address prejudice of any kind at work is awareness,” Kaufman says. “Give yourself time and space to reflect and feel. The next step is providing space for the hurt and recognizing that it hurts where it matters — your pain is also a recognition of values. Then, take space to heal, which is easier said than done for many of us, I know. The final piece for me as a Jewish person is to look to my Jewish history and culture. People in my family and ancestry — and Jews worldwide — have faced worse and we’re still here. This doesn’t minimize it, but I’m part of a line of strong and resilient Jews who have survived, and we will continue to survive.”

Kate Whitney is the associate creative director at CJP.

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A Grant From CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism Helps Community Members Find Connection Amid Brokenness 

By Kate Whitney 

For many Jews, Oct. 7, 2023, marked a turning point.  

Since that day, which saw more than 1,200 killed and over 250 kidnapped by Hamas terrorists in Israel, Jews are experiencing record-breaking levels of antisemitism, campus protests, challenges to Israel’s right to exist, and questions regarding their safety and security in spaces where they were once taken for granted.  

They’ve also run up against what feels like unbridgeable divides in their own communities and within their own families. Difficult conversations can feel impossible.

“Post-Oct. 7, we’ve been trying to make sense of the impact of this on our community,” says Sheri Gurock, executive director of The Beker Foundation, a Boston-based family foundation dedicated to addressing some of the most pressing issues in Jewish life and engagement. The foundation was working with Boston Jewish day schools who stepped up to assist displaced Israeli families arriving in the community. They kept hearing about the struggles many were experiencing after the terror attacks, both from Israelis and local community members. “We’ve been holding so much. Many of us are feeling really stressed and alone right now.” 

Group support for those in need  

Gurock heard through a colleague about the success of Group Peer Support (GPS), a program created over 20 years ago to address the gaps in mental health care for perinatal populations. GPS’s trauma-informed, evidence-based program incorporates elements of mindfulness-based stress reduction, cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational interviewing, peer-to-peer support, psychosocial education, and other evidence-based modalities to address mental health issues. The program had since evolved and been adapted numerous times to provide group support to diverse populations, including parents, those recovering from substance-use disorder, refugees, and other vulnerable groups. Although mental health training and background aren’t essential to leading a group, facilitators are thoroughly trained and educated to address the specific needs and unique perspectives of participants.

“I watched a webinar on GPS and fell head over heels in love with what they were doing,” Gurock says. She contacted Liz Friedman, GPS’s CEO and co-founder, whose organization was already considering a GPS program for the Jewish community.  

“I was invited to a first meeting with Sheri, and she said, ‘I’ve seen your webinar; we’re going to do this,’” Friedman recalls. 

Through funding from The Beker Foundation, The Ruderman Family Foundation, other foundation partners across Boston, and a $110,000 grant from CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism (CCA), GPS teamed up with Jewish Family & Children’s Service of Greater Boston (JF&CS) and JCC Greater Boston to launch “Circles of Connection” to help mitigate the stress, anxiety, and trauma of the past year.

Getting started 

“Liz knew what she needed to do,” Gurock recalls, “but for us as a community, how do you get people to find out and sign up? And then, once the facilitators are trained, how do we deliver it into the community? Liz said GPS could train up to 100 people, but even figuring out how to get 50 people to engage in a 22-hour training seemed like a big ask during a very distracting, very traumatic time.”

And they needed to figure out if this model was something the community would respond to in a positive way.  

In June and July 2024, Circles of Connection launched a pilot program to gauge community interest in the model, with “circles” open to six specific populations in the Greater Boston area: LGBTQIA+ Jews, Jewish college students, parents of Jewish college students, Orthodox Jews, Jewish professionals, and Israelis. A seventh circle was offered as an open group, available to any Jewish person interested in attending, regardless of identity or affiliation. Every circle offered for a specific population had to be infused with and take into account that particular group’s values, beliefs, strengths, and resiliencies, as well as current, historical, and generational traumas. Sessions took place via Zoom, were 90 minutes long, and led by GPS-trained facilitators. 

“The results blew me away,” Friedman says. “One participant shared with us, ‘I was holding my breath through what felt like a private emotional collapse.’ They told us, ‘My relief at being in the group was overwhelming,’ and, ‘I had no hope before the session about how to speak with other folks who held different opinions, but I felt both connected and enormous relief.’ Keep in mind, this is from a one-time session. Jews are feeling so alone right now and it’s important for us to remember that we need one another and that we’re connected.”

“So much of our work is in breaking isolation to increase connection and reduce stigma,” Friedman continues. “What we hear all the time in this work is: ‘Oh, I’m so relieved I’m not alone,’ ‘I’m not the only one,’ ‘I need community,’ and, ‘I thought that I was crazy but I’m not.’”  

According to findings from the pilot, most participants (97%) said they would recommend Circles of Connection to others, with the same percent reporting that their Circles of Connection experience was “excellent” or “good.” Over half (55%) of participants found the experience so positive they want to bring it back to their community by becoming a Circles of Connection facilitator.

So far, Circles of Connection has more than 80 individuals training to become facilitators, including lay leaders, volunteers, synagogue members, rabbis, Jewish professionals, social workers, coaches, and clinicians. Groups are launching soon within the community and within Jewish workplaces, including CJP.

“Circles of Connection is the exhale we all need. Throughout facilitator training, I’ve learned key skills in how to create and maintain brave spaces that foster healing, relief, and a powerful antidote to our current fear-filled realities,” says Molly Kazan, engagement manager with CJP’s CCA and one of CJP’s Circles of Connection group facilitators.   

“What’s so clear to me is that whether we are grieving and our minds go to hostages or to the Palestinian community or all the places in between, we’re all feeling enormous sorrow,” Friedman says. “And this opening up allows healing to take place. We have to address the issues causing us pain. If we’re not healing from the trauma, we can’t see what’s right in front of us. We are not trying to get people to agree on everything. What we’re doing is bringing people together to heal, to eliminate the binary, and to be connected heart to heart. That’s where I think change is really going to happen.”

Learn more about Circles of Connection, joining a group, or becoming a facilitator.

Kate Whitney is the associate creative director at CJP.

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The Education Our Children Deserve 

By Rabbi Marc Baker

As a lifelong educator, high school teacher, Jewish communal leader, and the parent of four high school and college students, I feel acutely attuned to both the rhythm of the school year and to the sacred responsibility of schools, universities, and the teachers and leaders who populate them.  

This year feels different.  

For many Jewish students and educators who left classes in the spring after what can only be called a perilous time, the normal anxieties and anticipation associated with going back to school are heightened. The stakes feel higher.  

Since the horrific attacks on Israel by Hamas, many in the Jewish community and our allies have witnessed more antisemitism and demonization of Israel than we imagined we would see in our lifetimes. One Brookline public school teacher wrote recently about walking into school “with trepidation” as vicious anti-Jewish and anti-Israeli rhetoric became commonplace. Jewish student and faculty experiences of the changing school climate were downplayed or outright ignored. I have heard similar stories from countless other students, parents, and faculty members, including my own child’s experience on a college campus. This moment offers an opportunity for educators and administrators to ask themselves: What are our moral obligations to our students, their families, and the society of which we are a part?  What must we do differently this year in order to do our jobs? 

What we’ve seen playing out on college campuses and in K–12 schools is a dangerous combination of ignorance about Jewish history and the history of Israel and the contemporary Middle East and purist ideology that vilifies those perceived as powerful and conversely glorifies the powerless. This manufactured binary is what enables otherwise intelligent people to turn what should be diverse and complex learning communities into ideologically homogeneous communities of activists. This is how students can come to denigrate critical inquiry and political moderation as morally weak and privileged. 

These trends come from a minority that consists of radical student activists, outside groups and bad actors, and yes, teachers and professors. 

As a member of the Jewish community, I am obviously concerned about the experience of Jewish students and faculty and believe that it is the responsibility of schools to ensure that they are safe and able to learn. But, as an American, especially as this school year contains a presidential election rife with toxic polarization, ideological extremism, and culture wars, I see antisemitism and Israel as case studies — or proof points — of the broader and deeper reckoning in education right now. 

In his book Healing the Heart of Democracy, Parker Palmer writes about the role of schools in reweaving our social fabric and strengthening American democracy.  

In too many settings, instead of teaching our young people to embrace complexity and what Palmer calls “tension-inducing questions” that have no easy answers, educators have embraced scholar-activism, infusing their lesson plans, research, and teaching with political agendas. They transmit unexamined dogmas about the world that foster moral self-righteousness and justify excluding and discriminating against others, including but not limited to those who believe that the State of Israel has a right to exist. We see this in the Massachusetts Teachers’ Association’s endorsed curriculum and professional development about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, and it is egregious educational malpractice. 

In and out of classrooms, it is the job of school and university administrators to demand more of their teachers and to build learning communities that are hospitable to the humble pursuit of truth and wrestling with the messiness of value conflicts. 

Recently, several national organizations, including the Anti-Defamation League and Hillel International, published a comprehensive set of recommendations for universities to ensure the safety and thriving of Jewish students — and all students — this coming school year. They focus on clear communication of rules and regulations regarding protests, supporting Jewish students, mandating antisemitism training, guaranteeing physical safety, and reaffirming the professional responsibilities of their faculty. These recommendations are a good start, and they are relevant for other educational settings as well. 

At the most basic level, institutions can begin by enforcing rules to ensure that all students are included on campus, not merely certain groups, and to ensure no students or faculty are permitted to violate the safety and dignity of others, even in the name of their own notions of justice and morality. Allowing Jewish or Israeli students to be silenced in and out of the classroom — including by protesters who call for their total removal from campus — can no longer be the standard in academic institutions.  

While education in America is in many ways at a crossroads and there is much work to do, it is also the case that schools and universities offer the greatest hope for the future of our country and our civilization. But it is essential that educators and administrators recommit themselves to the essential principles of liberal education and expect their students and faculty to practice curiosity, critical thinking, reflection, and dialogue, especially with different perspectives and people with whom they disagree. At a time when social media and its inherent disinformation has replaced the methodical processes of knowledge acquisition and skill building, these “traditional” hallmarks of great education have never been more essential.  

If our educators and administrators return to the fundamentals of teaching, learning, and leadership, they can create the learning environments that their students deserve, and that prepare a new next generation of caring and compassionate, knowledgeable and sophisticated, values-driven and morally purposeful citizens and leaders. Our country and our world need them now.  

To learn more about the work of CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism in K–12 schools and on campuses throughout Greater Boston, visit our webpage.   

Rabbi Marc Baker
As President and CEO of Combined Jewish Philanthropies of Greater Boston (CJP), Marc leads the organization in its mission to inspire Jewish life and ignite positive change in Greater Boston, in Israel, and across the globe. He champions CJP’s efforts to build partnerships, develop resources, mobilize volunteers, and put innovative philanthropy into practice. Marc regularly writes, speaks, and teaches about leadership, community, and civic life, bringing the voice of Jewish tradition to contemporary issues.

Marc graduated from Yale University in 1997 with a Bachelor of Arts in religious studies and received his Master’s in Jewish education from The Hebrew University in 2002. Before coming to CJP, Marc served as Head of School at Gann Academy in Waltham. Born in Lynnfield, Marc currently resides in Brookline with his wife, Jill, and they have four children.

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Supporting Jewish Students: A Vision for Safe and Inclusive School Cultures

By Dan Osborn

It would be an understatement to call this past school year emotionally challenging for Jewish students, families and educators. The traumatizing events of Oct. 7 and the continued conflict between Israel and Hamas in Gaza have directly impacted the lives of students throughout Greater Boston, many of whom have deep and personal connections to Israel, Gaza and the broader region. Throughout the school year, I heard from students and families that their anguish was not fully understood by teachers or administrators.  

At their best, schools are places where all students can feel safe, seen, valued and understood by culturally sensitive educators. Yet, for too many, going to school this past year entailed feeling isolated, alienated and misunderstood. Despite these hardships, there continues to be hope that there are teachable moments that can improve and enhance students’ experiences in schools.  

As we enter the 2024-2025 school year, Jewish Community Relations Council of Greater Boston’s (JCRC) Education Initiative, supported by CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism, brings hope into its intentional strategy for promoting safe and inclusive school cultures, where Jewish and all students can experience the joy of learning in an atmosphere that centers their diverse intellectual and emotional needs.  

Central to ensuring schools promote a deep sense of belonging is establishing and maintaining constructive and trusting relationships with leaders in school districts. Without collaborative dialogue with superintendents, principals and many other administrators and educators, we are unable to effectively encourage schools to be responsive to students’ needs.  

Recognizing this, JCRC is beginning this school year with a renewed commitment to serving as a trusted resource to educators and administrators throughout Greater Boston. As a consultant, we sit with K-12 professionals, helping them identify what curricula, pedagogies, policies and practices can address antisemitism and promote Jewish students’ sense of belonging. We recognize that schools are a central pillar of civil society and we are dedicated to partnering with schools to enhance their work, educating and empowering faculty and staff along the way. 

This year, we are building on the momentum of the deep and constructive relationships that were developed last year in districts. In Brookline, Newton, Needham, Boston, Wellesley, Marblehead and beyond, we continue to promote a proactive agenda with district leaders, as well as social studies, equity and clinical service teams, all of whom help enhance students’ sense of belonging in complementary ways. 

As a connector, we help bring the high-quality curriculum and professional development of organizations like Facing History and Ourselves and the Institute for Curriculum Services into schools. Ensuring schools have accurate, nuanced and compelling representations of Jewish people and history is vital to fortifying the roles schools play in our pluralistic society.  

We are also invested in ensuring students, families and the broader community have opportunities to share their experiences, learn and be empowered through our K-12 initiative. Throughout the school year, JCRC will continue hosting webinars, listening circles and other opportunities to engage with the community. We are a leading resource for community members to support them in navigating antisemitism in their schools. Virtually and in person, JCRC will lead conversations about K-12 education so the community can learn about the patterns and trends in public education today and their relevance to concerns over antisemitism and inclusivity. 

As we begin this school year, we recognize the diverse needs of all students, particularly in a school year that marks the one-year anniversary of Oct. 7 and also features a divisive presidential election. Even under these circumstances, JCRC believes it’s possible to heal and move forward with a vision for partnership, collaboration and leadership in K-12 education. 

Dan Osborn, Ed.D., brings an unwavering commitment to improving and expanding the representations of Judaism and Jewish people, history, culture and identity in K-12 education. He believes all students need access to accurate and nuanced learning experiences about the vibrancy, vitality, diversity and dynamic nature of Jewish life around the world. This passion was deepened as a graduate student in the Department of Near East and Judaic Studies at Brandeis University, and he carried this knowledge of Jewish history into his career as a history educator, academic researcher and writer, and nonprofit professional. At Facing History and Ourselves, Dan was dedicated to Holocaust education and deepening teachers’ understanding of antisemitism, past and present. Osborn was a fellow at Holocaust Educational Foundation at Northwestern University and went on to author Shoah-related teaching resources for middle and high school teachers. Most recently, Osborn was a fellow in Hebrew College’s Boston Bridges program, reinforcing his affinity for interfaith and intercultural dialogue. Underpinning all his work in education has been a recognition that schools have the potential to promote compassion and justice when curriculum exposes students to the full humanity of Jewish people. 

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Leaning Into Jewish Joy on Campus 

By Kate Whitney

“What’s antisemitism like on campus?” 

Jen Stone, associate director of Northeastern University Hillel, says that’s the first question every parent asks her at Admitted Students’ Day on campus.  

The students, she says, inquire about Hillel’s programs or how they can get involved. “It’s the other side of the same question,” she explains. “They’re asking if Jewish life is vibrant.” 

Nationwide, campuses have seen everything from harassment to encampments to outright violence. Antisemitic incidents have skyrocketed. But Stone and her colleagues are prepping for the fall semester following one of the most challenging years for Jewish students with excitement. 

“We’re really lucky to have such a supportive administrative staff at Northeastern and we work hard to ensure we’re creating a student experience that centers around leadership, Jewish joy, and an enduring commitment to Jewish life on campus, Israel, tzedek (the act of giving generously), and tikkun olam (repairing the world),” Stone says. 

“Our engagement numbers were up last year for sure,” Stone continues. “We saw more students, more often, and we saw students who just really wanted to be surrounded by their Jewish peers. The tone definitely changed. It was harder to just be Jewish on campus, and it was crucial for students to be able to be around one another. Our building became more vibrant because there was a need to have that space.” 

“I’m not just a college student. I’m a Jewish college student.” 

Gabi Bailey, a senior majoring in bioengineering and biochemistry on a pre-med track, is one of those Northeastern University students who truly “found a home” at Hillel.  

“It was a really scary time after Oct. 7,” Bailey says. “And I felt really isolated among my non-Jewish friends. I had never felt that separation before, that sense of otherness, and my perception of the world was shifting. I saw a lot of people who were not Jewish making so many judgments, having no idea how intimately Jews’ sense of safety is tied to the existence of Israel, and making assumptions about my values. For the first time since I was in school, I couldn’t pay attention; I was constantly scrolling through the news on my phone. And I realized, I’m not just a college student, I’m a Jewish college student.” 

(Photo courtesy of Northeastern Hillel)

Bailey’s engagement with Israel and Jewish life was already strong before Oct. 7: She’s been to Israel on an Onward Israel summer internship program and has been involved with service work through Repair the World, frequently volunteering her time at Yachad and Hebrew SeniorLife. When things became difficult on campuses, Bailey couldn’t engage with the hate, but leaned into her love for Jewish life.  

“There’s a place and a need for those kinds of leaders,” she says. “And I think there are different roles for different people. This past year, I’ve had to get solid and secure in my values and deeply consider my place in this.” 

This year, she’s acting as Hillel’s social programming chair and, although the issues on campus likely won’t have disappeared, she’s looking forward to the year ahead. 

“My mindset is to focus on community completely,” Bailey says. “I want to have fun and get closer to people, I’m excited for Shabbat, I’m focused on tikkun olam. I would tell incoming students: No matter how religious you are, try Hillel, try Chabad. There’s really something for everyone.”  

Stone too hopes that Jewish students see Hillel as their pipeline for friendship, wellness, and leadership opportunities. Thanks to a Campus Education & Allyship Challenge grant from CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism (CCA), they’re piloting a Campus Antisemitism Peer Educators (CAPE) program designed to send student leaders onto the campus community for peer-to-peer conversations about identifying and preventing Jewish hate. 

“As a nonprofit, we wouldn’t have the capacity to do this on our own,” Stone says. “CJP’s CCA connected us to Project Shema for assistance with this program, so, not only are they funding us, but they’re making crucial connections for us.”

70 student leaders meet for a Boston-Area Student Hillel Leadership Conference on February 4, 2024. (Photo courtesy of Meir Zimmerman)
70 student leaders meet for a Boston-Area Student Hillel Leadership Conference on Feb. 4, 2024. (Photo courtesy of Northeastern Hillel)

CJP also hosted nearly 70 student leaders for a Boston-Area Student Hillel Leadership Conference on Feb. 4, 2024, where they heard from speakers from Hillel International and CJP’s president and CEO, Rabbi Marc Baker.  

“Here are college-aged young adults going into downtown Boston on a Sunday to spend their day off meeting in conference rooms to learn, grow, and develop as Jewish leaders on campus—it was a real investment in our students, and we couldn’t have done it without CJP,” Stone says. 

That investment in the students is what’s motivating Stone and the rest of Northeastern’s Hillel staff as they plan for what’s ahead, focusing on being “radically welcoming, developing and fostering leadership opportunities for those who want them, and creating a safe space for students who just want to hang out and do their homework around their Jewish peers.” 

“We are still keeping the hostages in our hearts, and we are acutely aware there’s still a war in the Middle East—and, at the same time, there’s also this desire for joy and a passion for community,” Stone says. “You also have students juggling everyday college challenges: managing a class schedule that’s not 7-2, eating in dining halls, interpersonal conflicts, and roommate issues—we’re here for all of it. We don’t want students walking onto campus scared; we want to empower them to be proud Jewish people and know that they have the resources and a safety net.” 

Kate Whitney is the associate creative director at CJP.

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Strengthening Our Community Through Inclusion

By Melissa Garlick, Senior Director of Combating Antisemitism and Building Civic Engagement

This time of year brings so much joy and rejuvenation with the end of school, graduations, and family gatherings. Pride and Juneteenth bring celebrations of freedom and progress.

At the end of a particularly challenging year, this summer also brings with it the time for reflections of how far we have left to go to truly achieve freedom and equality for all in the Jewish community. I am contemplating the poignant words of Mimi Lemay: “I am thinking of the spaces that no longer feel welcoming to LGBTQ+ Jews of Color, who it seems, with a swipe of poster board paint, have been blotted from the narrative of Jewish history […] how do these Jews that live at the crossroads of multiple ‘otherings’ experience this moment?”

As the current strain of antisemitism intensifies, and we respond this summer, it is incumbent on all of us in the community to think about how Jews hold multiple marginalized identities, particularly in this moment. How can their experiences shape our responses to ensure that they are most impactful and inclusive? When spaces no longer feel welcome, how do we not only advocate and train leaders to push back on Jews getting cleaved from society, but also ensure we are supportive of our diverse community?

CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism (CCA) is proud to sponsor these conversation of intersections — especially this month. These conversations are critical in our community as part of our collective effort to address antisemitism. As CCA prepares this summer to advocate on Beacon Hill, expand students’ education on the Holocaust and contemporary antisemitism, and put together resources to better equip our community in responding to antisemitism in schools for the next year, we must also understand lived experiences in our community in order to truly address how antisemitism threatens all. In honor of Pride and Juneteenth, I hope this month’s newsletter allows for this important reflection and also celebration of how far we’ve come.

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A Foot in Two Worlds: Celebrating Pride Month After 10/7

By Mimi Lemay

“What can I say?” my mother would shrug, on the occasions that I would let down my guard and empathize with the fact that my life choices had made hers more complicated: “What can I say? I have a foot in two worlds. I love them both.” 

Sometimes these ruminations would conclude with a query to the Almighty: “I don’t know why Hashem (God) has asked this of me, and sometimes I ask Him, ‘Why?’ But, this is my reality. I have a foot in two worlds.” 

The two worlds to which my mother referred were not demarcated by the 3,000 odd miles from the house she shared with my stepfather in Gateshead, England, and my home with her three grandchildren in small-town Massachusetts. The far wider gulf was the one between her world of stringent Torah observance and values, and my world, secular or frei (free) of these rituals and regulations.  

In crossing the chasm for each visit to our home, she emerged from the plane a striking figure in her long, dark skirts, buttoned-up shirts and a wig or kerchief covering her hair, even in the sweltering heat of summer. Her kosher cookware and dishes rose from their boxes in our basement and, for the next few weeks, replaced our “treif” items, her aromatic cooking bringing in the neighbors, who loved her. Her Hebrew and religious texts sat astride our secular volumes. Two worlds, two very different lives and one diminutive woman stepping back and forth, in apparent disregard for the inviolable lines. 

The crossing was far from seamless. At times we tussled, hurling recriminations at each other: I was accused of rejecting her world; she was accused of imposing hers on mine. It is only with age and maturity that I have come to appreciate how rare an act of love it was for her to cross this divide as wholeheartedly as she did, not only making peace with my secular existence, but expressing support for first one, then another of our family who came out as LGBTQ+. 

The world to which she returned at the end of each visit made no bones in its rejection of Jews who dared to love someone of the same sex, or try to live authentically as the gender they knew themselves to be. My mother, however, had managed to boil down the circumstances in which she found herself to these essentials: God gave her these two worlds, and therefore she must find a way to live in both. 

Mimi (far left), her kids and Bubby (center) on Mother’s Day 2024 (Photo courtesy Mimi Lemay)

My own world-straddling endeavors began nearly a decade ago, though at the time, I was unaware of occupying a liminal space. Realizing the lack of secure rights afforded to the LGBTQ+ community and the horrific discrimination to which they were subjected, I began my work as an advocate, writing and speaking in support of important equality legislation, walking the halls of our State House, even appearing occasionally on television. My focus soon widened to the national movement for LGBTQ+ rights, and I began to devote my time and efforts at larger, national civil rights organizations, linking hands with many of this country’s well-known activists.    

In the earliest years of my advocacy, I rarely brought up my Jewish heritage, something that still prompted complicated feelings in me, given the ultra-Orthodox upbringing that I had rejected. Instead, I steered conversations toward universally relatable themes: the desire to have my children grow up in a world where one’s authentic self was accepted, free of harmful and often violent bias. 

As I matured in my advocacy, I learned to be deliberately intersectional in my approach. “Intersectionality” meant accounting for the fact that individuals holding more than one marginalized identity often experienced the compounding effect of multiple discriminations and, therefore, lived in greater vulnerability. Accounting for intersectionality yielded several benefits. Considering factors other than LGBTQ+ status in our work enabled us to hone in on the specific needs of different communities. It also enabled triaging. Those who experienced the greatest multiplicity of vulnerabilities would require the most immediate effort and attention. Finally, it encouraged coalition-building with other social justice movements, expanding our reach and harnessing the power of intercommunal action. We were, inarguably, stronger together

I myself began to “lean in” to my Jewish identity as an advocate, realizing that my own personal journey as a formerly ultra-Orthodox woman, far from being irrelevant to my work, was a helpful tool for modeling how understanding about gender and sexuality can evolve. During my hours speaking and writing about my previous Jewish identity, I found myself, to my surprise, in the process of creating a new one, distinct from the one I had discarded in my early 20s. I discovered that not only did I no longer feel compelled to choose between my Jewishness and my acceptance of my LGBTQ+ children, but punkt fakhert, as the Yiddish saying goes—quite the opposite was true. It was the core Jewish values I had carried over from my youth, and perhaps the collective Jewish consciousness of being a permanent “other” across human history, that informed and fueled my advocacy. 

By the time the pandemic broke in 2020, I was engaging regularly with Jewish audiences from international to local organizations, large institutions like Hadassah and community synagogues and JCCs across the U.S. It was as the “Jewish era” of my advocacy was growing that I began to notice the absence of targeted messaging and support to Jews from what I considered my “home base”—large, national civil rights organizations. I began to suggest ways we could fill in these gaps and build these bridges. The tepid responses I received were disappointing, but I also realized that, in the here and now, American Jews did not experience the acute levels of systemic discrimination that other groups did. I counseled myself to have patience. There were bigger “fires” to put out (the triaging rubric under which we operated was: “Whose house is currently on fire?”). These were the days of the George Floyd murder and protests and the growing national outcry against the systemic inequalities and exponential violence under which people of color labored. Barreling toward us were the disastrous repeal of Roe v. Wade, multiple threats to voting rights, as well as an explosion of attacks on trans youth in Republican-controlled state legislatures. So many fires, so little time. 

It was only in 2022 that my two worlds, that of my Jewishness and my progressive activism, became distinctly uncomfortable to occupy in tandem. One such interaction happened at an annual gathering of fellow advocates: A casual remark was made to the effect that a particular person, being Jewish, could not appreciate the burden of discrimination experienced by the speaker.

I struggled for a moment in the decision of whether to speak up. I intuited that the remark was not malicious in intent; rather, it came from an absence of understanding of the prevalence and extent of antisemitism, past and present. However, the absence of knowledge itself was problematic. I settled on a gentle reminder that Jews, as a people, have long experienced “othering,” and a Jewish person might well be equipped to empathize with another’s experience of discrimination.  

I did not think my remark to be extraordinary or controversial in the least. However, the group moderator swiftly delivered what felt like a rebuke: “It [antisemitism] is not the same!” was said with some force. 

I was surprised and dismayed. The unique lived experiences of different historically marginalized communities were typically a welcome conversation in our group. Furthermore, my comment was not comparative in nature. “Of course it’s not the same,” I retorted, flustered, “but it exists.” I listed a few personal examples, as well as those of the wider Jewish community, uncomfortably aware that the “temperature” in the room had dropped. I wondered how my addition of antisemitism as a catalyst for shared empathy could have been taken, prima facie, as reductive of the harm experienced by others. It felt like I had clumsily stumbled into a conversation already in progress, one that I was not privy to and was therefore ill-prepared for. Something had been decided about the Jewish experience that had excluded this experience from all others in the category. 

After the session, a few of my fellows continued to try to “educate me,” all well-intended, I assumed, on the disparate natures of different oppressions. One advocate alone seemed to understand my statement. She approached me in a quiet moment. “When you first started talking,” she admitted, “I felt myself go,” here she drew back in a gesture of recoil, “…but then, as you went on, I began to understand. You taught me something new. Thank you for sharing your truth. Keep doing that.” Impulsively, I embraced her, grateful for the acknowledgment that what I had brought into the room was not intended to harm or reduce. It took me hours of mulling over the day’s events to discover the inadvertent clue she had provided for me; a reference to the wider conversation that had excluded Jews, evidenced by her initial recoil at my words. 

Since that experience, I have searched for answers across large organizations dedicated to fighting for civil rights, hoping to find evidence that I was mistaken, that antisemitism was included among other forms of hate to be combated. That this subject was not just the purview of the ADL and Jewish organizations. I read books on this subject, from David Nirenberg’s “Anti-Judaism: The Western Tradition” to Dara Horn’s “People Love Dead Jews” and comedian David Baddiel’s not-so-funny “Jews Don’t Count.” The shadow conversation I was searching for began to take shape.  

I also found allies within these LGBTQ+ advocacy spaces, Jews and non-Jews, eager to begin the conversation about the world’s longest-standing hatred. Measurable change, however, was slow and halting, with many fires springing up around the country. 

In the meantime, I continued to straddle my two worlds, my Jewishness and my LGBTQ+ advocacy, carving out spaces where I could do one, or be the other. I joined the board at Keshet, a national LGBTQ+ Jewish organization, and found a place where I could be and do both. Often, I was reminded of my mother’s dilemma: “God gave me two worlds, and I love them both.” I had to find a way, with patience, to cross this divide. 

Mimi Lemay, far left, at a Keshet board meeting in May 2024 (Photo courtesy Mimi Lemay)

It was then, on an early Saturday morning in October, that my Jewish world caught fire. 

The first weeks after the horrific Oct. 7 passed in a partial haze. Some things, my everyday schedules and interactions, seemed to happen without much deliberate participation on my part. The kids were fed; they made it to school. I kept most of my meetings. I guess I was there? Other moments remain sharp and indelible: The panicky texts and calls to my siblings in Israel, starting with my brother in Jerusalem, father to a toddler with another baby on the way. The moment my sister, who had been in Sinai on vacation, made first contact. The interminable wait until Motzei Shabbat when my religious sister, living in Beitar with her two children, was heard from. The feelings too are indelible: Confusion about what had happened, and what was still happening. The growing horror as confusion turned into certainty, and the numbers of the dead and captured climbed. 

These feelings will be familiar to many Diaspora Jews, especially Israeli-born Jews like myself, along with other confounding experiences: The indescribable loneliness of intimate tragedy, while the world outside your window dances by as if nothing has happened. The growing calls, before we had finished burying our dead, for Israel to show restraint in its response. The things that were intimated, or spoken out loud: “What did you expect? Oppression breeds violence.” Later, as the half-hearted or ambivalent acknowledgements turned into vociferous accusations, searching acquaintances’ social media posts for incriminating evidence from that black day. Did anyone cheer for the monsters? Fleeting days of newscasters’ empathy—familiar, formerly comforting faces—now cold and condemning. All the while, the profound ache for the innocent: the massacred dead, the terrified hostages, the Gazans being used as pawns and human shields in a game of their leaders’ devising. 

As 2023 came to a close, I could no longer linger in this liminal space. I jumped at the chance to join a Boston Jewish women’s mission to Israel, my feelings for the land and my people no longer complicated by my past. Such is the warped blessing of catastrophe; it brings instant clarification and realignment. In Jerusalem, Tel Aviv, Jaffa and Rahat, our little group met with our Israeli counterparts, human rights activists, civil society entrepreneurs and peacemakers; Jewish, Palestinian and Bedouin. These impassioned women clearly knew the stakes. They knew, and had known for a while, that Israel’s survival as a pluralistic, ethnic democracy hinged on the twin prongs of secure borders and secure human rights, an end to occupation and an end to terrorism. I departed Israel carrying with me precious words of hope spoken by Sally Abed, a Palestinian-Israeli peace activist and leader in the organization Standing Together: “It is often in the darkest times that come the clearest visions.” 

On my return to America, I was once again bombarded with voices calling for an expansion of the conflict: “Globalize the intifada!” I realized that, over here, voices of change like that of Sally Abed have been drowned out by the cacophony of crowds. Over here in the Diaspora, some vicious and ancient force was metastasizing. It was my Tel Aviv sister who told me that after Oct. 7, many peacenikim were met with the taunt: “Hitpakachtem?” Have you sobered up? I think about my own recent sobriety on the subject of antisemitism. What were its implications for my advocacy? I have found no satisfying answers yet. 

The two worlds I am straddling continue to sap from my spirit in my attempts to reconcile them. There are few places left where I can fully be both a passionate Zionist Jew and a mother who passionately advocates for LGBTQ+ rights. I am also deeply aware that the rift I experience is nothing compared to that which LGBTQ+ Jews themselves are enduring. It seems that they have been presented with an impossible choice: Be the “right kind of Jew” and reject the “white colonialist Zionist oppressor” or the “wrong kind of Jew” whose heart is bound to the survival of the only Jewish state. Jews are familiar with this Damoclean sword, and there is no path that comes without heavy loss. I think of the words of a friend and fellow Jewish advocate: “For the first time in my life, I feel more Jewish than gay.” I hear words of abandonment all around me. 

Pride Month has found me, this year, heavy in thought and mired in complexity. I am thinking of all the celebrations to which queer Jews cannot give themselves fully, if at all. I am thinking of the spaces that no longer feel welcoming to LGBTQ+ Jews of color, who, it seems, with a swipe of poster board paint, have been blotted from the narrative of Jewish history. If I am drained in the effort, how do these Jews who live at the crossroads of multiple “otherings” experience this moment?  

I still believe deeply in the mission I set out to do nearly a decade ago when I began to advocate for LGBTQ+ equality, and I believe the progressive movement can correct its misconceptions and biases regarding Jews and the Land of Israel. I also believe that the wider Jewish experience is founded on tenets that fully align with LGBTQ+ equality, and that Jews must remain in these and other fights. As a Jewish mother, I cannot abandon either pursuit. I live with a foot in two worlds. And I love them both.

Mimi Lemay is an author and advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. Since 2015, Mimi and her family have fought for passage of equal protections for transgender individuals in Massachusetts and across the U.S., appearing on television and print media with their message of inclusion. In 2017, Mimi joined the Parents for Transgender Equality National Council at Human Rights Campaign, where she remains an alumnus member. In 2019, her critically acclaimed memoir was released: “What We Will Become: A Mother, A Son and A Journey of Transformation,” and was recognized as a 2020 Massachusetts Book Awards finalist. Also in 2020, Mimi was named a Commonwealth Heroine, an award granted by the Massachusetts Commission on the Status of Women. In 2023, after several years of advocating on behalf of LGBTQ+ equality in the Jewish community, Mimi joined the board of Keshet, a national Jewish LGBTQ+ advocacy organization. She also volunteers with the Anti-Defamation League in Massachusetts. Mimi received a master’s in law and diplomacy from the Fletcher School at Tufts University in 2004 and an undergraduate degree in Iran and U.S. foreign policy from Boston University in 2002. She was born in Jerusalem in 1976 and emigrated to the U.S. as a young girl. She now lives on the North Shore of Massachusetts with her three children and a quirky puppy, Penny. Her three siblings all live in the Holy Land with their families.

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CCA Sponsors 7,000 Tickets for Students to Experience Auschwitz Exhibit

As part of CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism’s efforts to increase antisemitism and Holocaust education in the K-12 space, we are proud to support 7,000 K-12 school student visits to “Auschwitz. Not long ago. Not far away.,” a powerful exhibit at Park Plaza. Learn more about the exhibition, which spotlights more than 700 original artifacts from Auschwitz. We’re also excited to hear the feedback from educators and students!

“Thanks to your underwriting of our tickets, we were able to bring a group of over 180 10th graders to see the Auschwitz exhibit at the Castle.  I have to be honest, I’ve never seen such a large group of students so engaged in an experience.”

— Newton North High School 


At a time when alarming numbers of young people don’t know anything about the Holocaust, we need to ensure that every child understands this history, as well as contemporary antisemitism. 

“Our 12th-grade students are going to be visiting the Auschwitz exhibition in Boston at the end of May. I just received notice that our tickets to the exhibition were generously donated by this organization. Thank you so much for this gift!” 

— Milestones Day School & Transitions Program

We are grateful to partner with Facing History & Ourselves on follow-up educational materials, ensuring that students and teachers understand their crucial role in combating hate and evil in society.

Our students were well-behaved, reflective and thoughtful throughout the exhibit. Many wonderful conversations were had, tears were shed and hugs were given as they learned about the Holocaust in an authentic manner. Thanks again to the Combined Jewish Philanthropies organization for generously donating the tickets to make it possible for us to have this experience.

— Boston Public Schools

“Hello! My students and I wanted to thank you and the philanthropy organizations for funding our admission to ‘Auschwitz. Not long ago. Not far away.’ They found the field trip very impactful. Their handwritten notes are attached. Thank you again for allowing my students to expand their understanding of the Holocaust and gain a deeper appreciation for the lives who were lost during this tragic moment in history.”

— Brooke Charter Schools

I am the 11th grade history and psychology teacher at Boston Public Schools. I’m writing on behalf of my students and fellow chaperones who were able to experience the ‘Auschwitz. Not long ago. Not far away.’ exhibit at the Castle at Park Plaza due to your generous donation. The experience allowed my students to learn about and reflect on the Holocaust in a deeper, more meaningful way. As a school that services many low-income families, I would not have been able to bring my 65 11th graders to this exhibit without your financial assistance. My students and I express our sincerest gratitude! Thank you.

— Boston Public Schools
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Empowering My Teen to Combat Antisemitism

By Sarah Plymate

With the almost 400% rise in antisemitism since 2023 and with three Jewish children of my own, I have been deeply concerned about the rise of antisemitism and bigotry in all forms. That’s why I joined the North Shore Antisemitism Task Force in December 2023. This task force brings together a group of educators, community organizers and parents who aim to empower and educate North Shore teens when faced with antisemitism on their campuses and in social media. Our first event, “Standing Strong: Empowering Teens to Recognize and Respond to Antisemitism,” was hosted by the nationally recognized organization TribeTalk.

Our task force was able to get the support of 16 sponsors, both Jewish and non-Jewish organizations. We wanted our teens to know that the North Shore community is here to support them and won’t stand for antisemitism. The fact that individuals and groups actively came together to tackle antisemitism head-on sends a powerful message of unity and resilience. I loved TribeTalk’s encouragement for students to engage with Jewish life on college campuses, find meaningful ways to connect with their identity and community, and provide a sense of belonging and support during challenging times. Whether through joining Jewish organizations, attending cultural events or participating in religious gatherings, these experiences can enrich students’ college experiences and foster a strong sense of community.

At the dinner table after the event, I spoke with my biggest critic, my teenage daughter. She enjoyed the slide deck and educational overview of the history of antisemitism and how to recognize it. Several of her friends from her public high school were there, as well as students from local parochial schools, so she felt better knowing everyone had the same definition of antisemitism and how to recognize it.

She found it particularly powerful when the teens broke into small groups to read scenarios based on real-life antisemitic events that had happened to others, and then collectively decide how to best address the confrontation. Rather than seeing clips and posts from what’s happening on college campuses through social media, these scenarios had actionable answers—there was follow-up, and it was up to each group to figure out what they would do in the given situations. This hands-on approach not only educates teens, creates dialogue and improves critical thinking, but also empowers them to take action when they encounter bigotry in their own lives.

I appreciated Robin Friedman‘s emphasis on the diversity of experiences with antisemitism on college campuses. While not all students may encounter antisemitism, it’s crucial to provide resources and support for those who do. I want my children to be strong in their own identity. By acknowledging the varied nature of these experiences, we can create a more inclusive and supportive environment for all students.

Now is the time to stand up against antisemitism, bigotry and hate of every kind. When I envisioned my kids heading off to college, my thoughts were filled with curiosity. I wondered how they would engage with campus life—would they join Greek organizations, participate in Hillel or Chabad or explore their identities in other ways? Who would they become through these experiences? But today, my concerns have shifted and their safety weighs heavily on my mind. No one should ever feel the need to hide, feel ashamed or bear the burden of guilt when their character is unfairly attacked. My hope now is that after this engagement with TribeTalk, our teens will be equipped with more in their toolkit to navigate such situations—whether it’s knowing how to respond effectively or walking away, finding themselves in a better place emotionally.

“Standing Strong: Empowering Teens to Recognize and Respond to Antisemitism” was made possible in part by CJP’s Center for Combating Antisemitism (CCA), a growing hub for Boston’s work in responding to antisemitism. The CCA also brings local and national partners’ work together, strategically and in coordination with each other toward a vision where antisemitism becomes socially and politically unacceptable in Greater Boston.